Ways to Overcome Shyness

Ways to Overcome Shyness

BY KEZIAH

All of us have been hit by this certain trait one way or another. Whether we are in grade school, in junior high, high school and well along college years even upon employment. Now you are full grown there are all kinds of dilemma hindering you from shying away for the things you love to do and accomplish.

Worse for some of us, are even delivered in this kind of upbringing that it is safe to say, (It’s not our fault) that certainly being shy is nothing to be embarrassed about. We are all in an imperfect world full of imperfections that embracing it should not give us headaches. Or the feeling of questioning one’s self if that person noticed the awkwardness in any given situation.

Bringing it in a façade way are what most likely well intended to do in each situation where all efforts that you have conquered to be in your present situation in success not to regress can do better than harm. No pressure! It can only last so much. Being “unshyly” is not always a given gem for some of us but this can open opportunities to help yourself with an experience worth learning from and treat that lesson as a treasure to help others.

Just like others, I’ve struggled on this trait of being “shy”. When I go to an event, I have sweaty palms and forehead and I get cold. I have a job interview I stutter and forget the purpose, why am I even there?

Ways to Overcome Shyness

#01 Be Friends with Others:

Get to know others. Start small, take baby steps. There’s no harm done than saying “Hi!” Put on that smile and be friendly. There’s no room for sulking because so and so did not say a greeting to you first. She is probably shy too, so cheer up and two of you can have a friendship if one of you make a move to just ask, how is their day doing?

#02 Be Confident:

There was this movie I watched when I was a teen and it has been on replay in my head about this boy wanting to date this girl. One day he stopped by her house on his bicycle to give her a bouquet of flowers that he industriously handpicked from his mom’s garden on a hot summer day. The boy parked his bicycle near the mailbox took the bouquet of flowers from the basket and took a huge deep breath. He probably walked 5 times back and forth on the driveway before he could muster out to ring the doorbell.

While this is just in a movie same could apply to each of our confidence. The fear and the intimidation is there relentlessly crouching at us. Some are even in avoidance and afraid to deal with it. But just as the little boy mustered up courage and confidence to finally tiptoe and reach the doorbell, he did do it! We can too.

#03 Give Yourself Credit

Knowing that you tackled the event, a presentation perhaps, or that class recitation. These are stepping stones to conquer shyness. The more you have exposure to deal with people the more adequate you are in your train of thought to say to yourself, “I CAN DO THIS!”. If that comes again it is second nature gives you confidence even if you think you did unpleasantly bad on it then you still did it and accomplished what assigned task you may have.

So give yourself a chance to see how good you are you deserve good credit.

#04 Be Inspired!

No matter how we as human beings try to be perfect, it is a plain fact we cannot just be. Our life is not wired that way anymore. But to live undoubtedly searching for a way to overcome shyness is doable.  Apart from what media stress on our heads to be in fantasized perfection, there is not enough success if you follow it through.

Improve your ways of being unshyly. Be yourself. Have a workable plan of action and cope strategies of being outgoing, strong, confident, having courage. Funny thing my mom told me once when she was in high school that when she is in front of the student body doing a presentation she would think of them as monkeys to alleviate her shyness a little. Because she said, “the pressure is on me not on them the worse that they could do is "boo!" at me so if you do that you are monkeys”.

Brainstorm or plan ideas that can get you out of your shell. Even if it is just writing it down. Discussing it with someone. Practice setting yourself in an environment on how to tackle embarrassment and try again. Set a hobby or activity to not nurture this shy trait, like blogging, vlogging, write essays, journaling or art journaling or go to hobby groups/clubs. Interact with people.

Talking to someone about your shyness can help you to overcome it. Think of it as they are your guide. Be insightful about this. As some have been like you and me to be shy maybe you can help others too and overcome this trait that cripples them to see themselves in a positive light.